Question:
When I finished my secondary school, I was not a Christians. I met a man and I got pregnant. He was not prepared to be tied down and went away. I trained that child on my own. After seven years, he came back and we got married we became born again Christians at the Redeem Christian Church of God. He was a minister before he passed on. It's now five years since he passed on.

 But since then, I have been training my daughter alone. I have only one child and my daughter has never been a wayward child. You train up your child the way you want him or her to go.
 I called Pastor Biodun two days ago - I was lonely and depressed because my mother has been talking about my need to remarry, but this is not something I am thinking about right now. My mother is on my case. I am confused and don't know what to do.

Pastor Taiwo: Now if you begin to have a desire, it is not wrong. Go into the courtship like a Christian, and date like a Christian, get to know the man. Broken courtship is better than a broken marriage. In fact, a thousand broken courtships is better than one broken marriage. So there is nothing wrong if you have a desire, commit it to God in prayers. In fact, don't even begin to go out with a person until you're sure God is saying this is the man. And if God is saying this is the man, he will take care of all your fears.

Question: A born again sister, married to a born again brother. They were both very serious about the things of God then, the man was caught in a compromising act and the woman walked out of the marriage. Parents begged her, Christian leaders came together and begged her, people tried to call the woman but she refused to go back. They have been separated for up to fifteen years, but whenever the man wants to remarry, the woman fights against it. How should they handle such a case?

Pastor Taiwo: Fundamentally, this is one of the things we need to clarify in the Church. Because the Bible says once you're married you have to stick together if you're both Christians except, on the grounds of adultery. Where you still have a prerogative for mercy, you can forgive. But if you choose not to forgive, then you can let it go. But the Bible doesn't say that you can remarry – if you're both Christians. I think the issue is that we don't understand covenant issues much in the Church. If you understand covenant, then a lot of questions will not even arise at all.

 Whatever the man might have done, she was the one that said, never, I will not get into this again. Now after fifteen years, the man is saying, I can't continue like this I've got to remarry, but she is refusing. She's just being unnecessarily impossible.  I pray she gets good counsel quickly before she messes-up the little she has left. If she really wants to get back into the marriage, she should humble herself and get back immediately. I use the word humble because now she's being prideful. She's holding him to ransom, she's saying whatever you've done is still hurting; I am not coming back; and you're not… But it's because the man is God fearing, that's why. Can a woman stop a man from getting married? No.

 So tell her she still has a lot that God wants to bless her with. She should humble herself quickly and get back to her marriage, in Jesus name.