Question of the Week
Female WOMAN:
Where does the family stand in order of priority? Is it right for a man to neglect his family on the excuse that he is busy with church activities?
Answer:

The Bible is clear on this. God first, your family next and then the church or ministry! Paul advised Timothy that whoever desires the office of a Bishop (or any office in the church) must first learn to take care of his household. In 1Timothy 5:8, Paul also said, “But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever”. Note that provision here is not limited to financial provision, but actually refers to the spiritual, emotional and physical needs of the family. It is wrong for a man or woman to use their commitments in the church as an excuse to neglect the spouse and family. However, when you find yourself on the receiving end of this kind of situation, first pray, telling God about it, and of course speak to your spouse and let him know how you feel and how his neglect of the family is affecting you. I believe God will grant him wisdom.

Male MAN:
I have been sent out of the bedroom by my wife because I snore. How do I regain my bedroom?
Answer:

It is often advised that when snoring gets to a level where it becomes offensive and prevents the other person from sleeping, medical advice should be sought. However, I know of someone who was operated upon and he stopped for about 3 months but by the 6th month, his snoring came back stronger. Even with the surgery! This suggests to me that a medical solution is only temporary. Sometimes there are sleeping positions that help to reduce snoring and other such tips that can help address the issue. Other times, snoring could result from excess weight. In such situations, exercise is recommended. However, most times, a partner just has to live with it. After all, love bears all things. It is therefore no reason for a partner to send her spouse out of the bedroom as this could tear the relationship apart and even result in a bigger problem.

Interestingly, I believe you can pray about this if it becomes such an issue. Remember, there is nothing too hard or too small for God to handle!

 

Pastor Taiwo Odukoya

 

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Where does the family stand in order of priority?
How do I regain my bedroom?